Reason - a cause, explanation, or justification for an action or event.
Excuse - attempt to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offense); seek to defend or justify.
I hate excuses.
People give me excuses all the time for why they are overweight, didn’t attend a workout, or ate like shit. I agree, sometimes obstacles get in the way. If you truly want to change however, the first thing you need to do is learn what is an excuse and what is a reason.
First off, as soon as you realize that most things setting you back in life are an excuse, you need to rid them from your brain.
Excuses are everyday shit that we have to deal with in life that try to get in the way of reaching our goals. Excuses try to prevent us from our goals, and often do, but reasons are what really stop us. We want to find how we can eliminate excuses entirely and find our best approach to reasons to not allow them to limit us too much.
Traveling all day and couldn’t hit your workout? EXCUSE. You could have done something. You should have woken up 10 minutes earlier and hit a quick 10 minute AMRAP of 10 squats, 10 pushups, and 10 situps. You could have done that at home, in the airport, or hotel late at night.
Couldn’t eat well at work today because you had meetings all day with your boss, who isn’t keen on you snacking in front of her? REASON. You couldn’t eat because your job depended on it. Shit happens and I get it. Make sure you plan good meals for breakfast before work and have something available as soon as you are able to eat.
Take a step back and begin looking at these issues that pop up in your life. Is it family getting in the way? Your job? Or are you just holding yourself back? Now, ask yourself if this is really a reason you can’t do something about. Is it a cause, explanation, or justification or is it simply an attempt to lessen the blame for not doing it?
We all run into obstacles in our lives. Broken bones are reasons for not running a half marathon. But, not having enough time is an excuse. Time is a beautiful thing that is limited in quantity, but not in creativity. Time can always be better utilized and prioritized. When these obstacles pop up in your head, simply ask yourself if this is a reason or excuse. You’ll be surprised how many things you can immediately find solutions to.
Let me preface this article by saying this article is not intended to:
(1) say that women can’t be badasses and do anything a man can do (or do it even better)
(2) say that men have to be emotionless and hide their feelings.
(3) allow men to be assholes and should instead respect all humans regardless of age, background, or sex.
(4) say that all men are physically wimps, only a majority of them are.
(5) say men need to be the primary monetary providers for their families
It is intended to share that physical masculinity in its historic form has taken a huge hit.
Men have become weak.
Darwinism used to control our world. Only the strongest - both physically, mentally, and intellectually, would survive. Their genes would be passed along and only the fittest lived on. Survival of the fittest is now negated with who has the most money or access to healthcare (which often coincides), allowing for our physical abilities to be completely neglected. This has allowed men to become weak and fragile - and I want to change that.
I want to bring back the man in men. Men should be able to lift heavy, run long distances, physically protect themselves and their family, help thy neighbor, and explore the world around them. Instead, men are confined to their desk chairs, not playing in the yard with their children, getting out of breath walking from their car, and playing childish video games as their adventures. Side note - if you are a man above the age of, let’s say 12, and have any intention of getting laid or actually being a real man, stop playing video games. I’m sure there are ladies out there that are into that shit, but most think it’s lame. Because it is. And if I ever needed help unloading heavy stuff from my truck, I wouldn’t be calling the dude playing Fortnite, because no way that guy could be of any help with any sort of physical activity.
This isn’t all just about physical strength either. If I could rid men of one trait it’s complaining. What’s the point of complaining? All it does is make you worry about what you cannot control. Don’t like the rain? Don’t complain about it because you can’t do a thing about it. Don’t like your body? Don’t complain about it, do something about it! The term “man cold” was pegged for a reason. Step up your game men! Worry about the things that are in your control and shut up and take care of them.
So where do we begin? At the bottom of course. Men need to put their egos aside and trust professionals to help them out. In my experience, men have a tough time having a personal trainer or coach because they tend to want to do it themselves - they know better. But they don’t, so they need to put the ego aside and find help.
Next, that ego has to stay in the bag because when they do find help, it’s going to be hard and tons of people are going to be better, stronger, and faster. Many of those people are going to be teenagers and women. Likely, there’s even some teenage girls that are going to be stronger too! The ego has to be kept in check. Progress is made hour by hour and day after day. Know that and keep trucking along. They’ll get there.
Sure people can make money and hire people to do the heavy lifting for them. If they have accesses to great healthcare and there’s a good chance he can live for a long time, too. But, when a hurricane comes towards Florida, I want to be able to see our men help our elderly neighbors put up their hurricane shutters. I want to see men help a friend move a couch to their new apartment. I want to see men easily lift a keg out of the back of their truck. And I don’t want to hear men too out of breath to chase after their kids in the yard. I want to bring real men back. I believe we can collectively become strong and supportive members of the community once again. And if they aren’t willing, I know a TON of badass women that are currently putting in the work to do so.
Sean Spire is the Owner and Head Coach of Aspire. Athletically, he enjoys lifting heavy shit, running in the middle of the day, and tough MetCons. Personally, he likes spending time with his amazing wife, Erika, and dog, Reef.