Don't over complicate goal setting. Here's how to set a goal in 9 steps.
Self-help, motivational, and personal developing books, classes, and seminars are everywhere these days. Just about anyone who wants to stand in front of a crowd or say something inspirational on a podcast can do it. But who are these people and do they really know their shit? Some might be successful in your definition of success – be it business, athleticism, or creating a family. This person might even be nailing every one of your personal core values – a potentially solid choice to use your time reading, listening, or following. Others are phonys, only successful in sounding like they know something, but in their personal lives, businesses, or family endeavors are losers. You need to take an in-depth look at who you are seeking knowledge and inspiration from and vet them. If you are seeking a business mentor with multiple bankruptcies, a health coach that is overweight or doesn’t know how to deadlift, or a “life coach” with two divorces, you are modeling your behaviors after the wrong individual. You need to make sure these people are really getting after it and not only living the life that they are preaching, but will assist you in becoming the person you seek to develop into.
Next up – too many people are chronically trying to learn how to improve their life. Reading self-improvement books, for example, can be a great way to improve yourself. But, they don’t mean shit if you aren’t putting things into action and getting after the principles the book suggests. Reading book after book, listening to every podcast you can, and attending local events with self-help superstars are a waste of time if you aren’t implementing the messages. Put the book down and start taking action. Reread your favorite book or re-listen to that podcast that made you motivated for a couple days. Begin implementing ALL of the strategies suggested. Don’t skip one because you think it won’t work for you. Buy into the whole picture. If it doesn’t work in the long run, drop it and figure out what works better. Don’t just sit, listen, and “learn,” take action and make it happen for yourself.
This is not battering individuals that seek different methods to improve their lives. I love that people are trying to better themselves. At some point however you need to ask yourself, “Are you really trying to improve yourself, or are you chronically learning how people can improve themselves?” You need to dive deeper into who you are taking this information from – finding out if they really are the person you want to become more like. Then, pick one individual/theory/message you’d like to model and implement it. Don’t get caught up in any he said, she said, they did bullshit. Start trying things out and see what’s taking you on the best path to your definition of success using your core values.
Learning doesn’t mean anything without putting it to use.
If you don’t really want this, stop reading here. We need you to intrinsically want to be a better person physically and mentally. Aspire is for those that are willing to put in the effort to achieve the results they desire. This shit is hard, but if you want it, are open to change, and willing to put in the work, we will be here every step of the way to help.
Hold Yourself Accountable
Our Team and fellow Aspire athletes will be there for a high five, but ultimately, you need to hold yourself accountable to your actions, effort, and attendance. Take your fitness seriously by being on time to your workouts, listening to your coaches, doing mobility, and fueling with proper nutrition. Ask for help when you need it, but be the boss of yourself. You have one life – be in charge of it and reach your goals.
Do Intentional Activity Daily
You need to do some sort of intentional activity every day. That could be a workout at Aspire, 30 minute run, yoga session, or quick home workout. Don’t put this goal on a pedestal, it can be short and simple – it just needs to be intentional activity. A long walk with your dog, 2 minute plank between commercials, or walking up the stairs instead of the elevator counts.
Make things happen instead of waiting for them to happen. Take the time to schedule out your week and insert your workouts, go grocery shopping, and plan your meals. Don’t wait until lunch time to decide what you are going to eat for lunch, have it prepped already. Sign up for your workouts and hold yourself accountable to them. Stretch tight muscles before they become injured. The more you are able to plan ahead for, the less obstacles will get in your way.
Your journey to be the best athlete you can be will always be a team effort. Although a lot of it is up to you, the ancient African Proverb holds true, “if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” We are a team to seek each other for help when we need it, an extra push when we feel tired, and a kick in the ass when we are slacking off. Yes, we want you to be accountable for yourself, but pick up others when they are down, recruit help when needed, spread knowledge when you can, and hold your team accountable to their best.
Diets suck because they will never last forever and don’t necessarily work for everyone. Eat real foods – vegetables, fruit, nuts, seeds, and grass fed/free range meats. If you want to eat primarily vegetarian or vegan, go for it. But, abide by the 80/20 rule so whatever you do leads to a life of proper nutrition, not just a time frame. Eat 80% great stuff and splurge 20% of the time. This could be daily or on a weekly basis. PS – alcohol counts towards your 20%.
“It's so easy to be great nowadays, because everyone else is weak.” – David Goggins
There are no shortcuts to success and if people spent half the time trying to find hacks at actually working hard, they would be on the quickest path to succeeding at their goals. This shit ain’t easy and that’s the truth. If you are willing to put in the hard work and push yourself, your limitations are endless. But don’t think you are going to get there by keeping your hair dry and your cute lulu crop clean – results come in the form of pool of sweat and ripped calluses.
All the above habits don’t mean shit until you actually put them into action. If you want this, it can and will happen. We will be there to give you guidance, motivation, and encouragement, but we can only hold your hand for so long. It’s up to you to put these habits into place and we believe in you.
Sean Spire is the Owner and Head Coach of Aspire. Athletically, he enjoys lifting heavy shit, running in the middle of the day, and tough MetCons. Personally, he likes spending time with his amazing wife, Erika, and dog, Reef.