Let me preface this article by saying this article is not intended to:
(1) say that women can’t be badasses and do anything a man can do (or do it even better)
(2) say that men have to be emotionless and hide their feelings.
(3) allow men to be assholes and should instead respect all humans regardless of age, background, or sex.
(4) say that all men are physically wimps, only a majority of them are.
(5) say men need to be the primary monetary providers for their families
It is intended to share that physical masculinity in its historic form has taken a huge hit.
Men have become weak.
Darwinism used to control our world. Only the strongest - both physically, mentally, and intellectually, would survive. Their genes would be passed along and only the fittest lived on. Survival of the fittest is now negated with who has the most money or access to healthcare (which often coincides), allowing for our physical abilities to be completely neglected. This has allowed men to become weak and fragile - and I want to change that.
I want to bring back the man in men. Men should be able to lift heavy, run long distances, physically protect themselves and their family, help thy neighbor, and explore the world around them. Instead, men are confined to their desk chairs, not playing in the yard with their children, getting out of breath walking from their car, and playing childish video games as their adventures. Side note - if you are a man above the age of, let’s say 12, and have any intention of getting laid or actually being a real man, stop playing video games. I’m sure there are ladies out there that are into that shit, but most think it’s lame. Because it is. And if I ever needed help unloading heavy stuff from my truck, I wouldn’t be calling the dude playing Fortnite, because no way that guy could be of any help with any sort of physical activity.
This isn’t all just about physical strength either. If I could rid men of one trait it’s complaining. What’s the point of complaining? All it does is make you worry about what you cannot control. Don’t like the rain? Don’t complain about it because you can’t do a thing about it. Don’t like your body? Don’t complain about it, do something about it! The term “man cold” was pegged for a reason. Step up your game men! Worry about the things that are in your control and shut up and take care of them.
So where do we begin? At the bottom of course. Men need to put their egos aside and trust professionals to help them out. In my experience, men have a tough time having a personal trainer or coach because they tend to want to do it themselves - they know better. But they don’t, so they need to put the ego aside and find help.
Next, that ego has to stay in the bag because when they do find help, it’s going to be hard and tons of people are going to be better, stronger, and faster. Many of those people are going to be teenagers and women. Likely, there’s even some teenage girls that are going to be stronger too! The ego has to be kept in check. Progress is made hour by hour and day after day. Know that and keep trucking along. They’ll get there.
Sure people can make money and hire people to do the heavy lifting for them. If they have accesses to great healthcare and there’s a good chance he can live for a long time, too. But, when a hurricane comes towards Florida, I want to be able to see our men help our elderly neighbors put up their hurricane shutters. I want to see men help a friend move a couch to their new apartment. I want to see men easily lift a keg out of the back of their truck. And I don’t want to hear men too out of breath to chase after their kids in the yard. I want to bring real men back. I believe we can collectively become strong and supportive members of the community once again. And if they aren’t willing, I know a TON of badass women that are currently putting in the work to do so.
Sean Spire is the Head Coach of ASL. He was a competitive swimmer who discovered CrossFit and Ironman Triathlons. He has his BS in Exercise Science from Florida State University.